Written July 17, 2016
“Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching” ~C.S. Lewis
Ah…Integrity. Having integrity means doing the right thing in a reliable way. It’s a personality trait that we strive to live by, because it means a person has a moral compass that doesn’t waver. I chose this quote because all to often in our daily life we are selfish and self centered humans. I admit, I have those times too. Throughout my life I’ve met and gotten to know many types of people – some with integrity and some without.
There’s one thing I’ve noticed about a lot of, but not all, people. I can summarize what I’ve learned with a saying I used to hear growing up. “What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.” Basically it means if you do something to someone, don’t be mad if someone does that to you.
Some people I’ve known of or met in my life say something like, “Don’t lie to me,”. Then that person turns around and lies, but gets mad if even a small white lie. That person will also get mad if parts the story is omitted. An omission is when only parts of the truth, was told to them.
I recently had a conversation with a close friend who told me about someone we both knew. This person, let’s call him Roger, had divorced his wife, who we’ll call Susie. In the years before their divorce, Roger was put thru the ringer by Susie. Roger was a straight shooter and believed in the values and morals that he was raised with. Susie apparently violated to many of these morals and values. Even tho Susie tried to make amends to him, Roger strayed from his wife, Susie, and into the arms of another woman, who we’ll call Nancy.
Now this “other woman” was causing her ex husband the some of the same grief that Roger had gone thru before his divorce from Susie. Nancy also goes against many of Roger’s morals, spiritual principles and values that he grew up with, but he stayed with her. One would think Roger wouldn’t tolerate Nancy doing this, but no. He not only defended her and overlooked her actions but also helped her cause her ex husband more grief.
People like this are people who have what’s called double standards. They might as well say that the old proverb, “What’s good for the goose is good for the gander” doesn’t apply to them. This proverb simply means that what is appropriate in one case is also appropriate in the other case in question. This boils down to one word, hypocrite. A hypocrite preaches one thing, but does the opposite. For example, you’re a hypocrite if you criticize other people for wearing fur, but pull out your big mink jacket as soon as it gets cold. So think of a hypocrite as a person who pretends to be a certain way, but really acts and believes the total opposite. Hypocrites usually talk a big talk but fail to follow their own rules. Can you think of anyone in your life who might be like this? Does this sound like something you might do?
Thought for the Day: When you are judging other people or when you are pointing
a finger in judgement at someone, we still have 3 fingers pointing back at us.