“Beauty isn’t about having a pretty face. It is about having a pretty mind, a pretty heart, and most importantly a beautiful soul.” ~Anonymous
Ah beauty within… I’m sure we all know and maybe felt the pressure to have the perfect body, the best clothes, prettiest face and hair, yadda, yadda, etc and so on. Much of this pressure comes from tv, movies, magazines, athletes and even from other people around us. Whether it’s our romantic partner, friends or coworkers, we tend to judge each other based on our outer looks. We even judge ourselves when we think we’re not enough this or that. Many of us have a hard time looking into another person’s heart.
I’ve always tried to look nice on the outside. No, I’ve never bought the real high end fashions but I could put together a pretty damn good looking outfit using secondhand clothing and accessories. As time marched on and life happened(as it always does), my 20yr old body changed. Between health issues and older age, my pretty face has wrinkles and my hair is more gray and my petite size 2 body grew a couple sizes bigger. Now I dress more for comfort and less for fashion. Don’t get me wrong, I still try to look good only now I’m more comfortable and not as pretty – at least in my mind.
I guess I realized how picky we are the other day when I discovered one man in my life wasn’t interested in me because of my looks and that stung a little bit. It really hit home when I decided to browse an online dating site, something I really don’t like doing. There’s a lot of creeps there and very few good guys. I flipped thru profile after profile and and didn’t like what I saw. It was a either because of their looks or the jobs they had. And then of course my own insecurities about my looks and my job became an issue. Amazing the crazy stuff we tell ourselves especially when it comes to dating. “I would never date this person because…” or “This person wouldn’t want to date me because…”
There’s one thing I’ve noticed when it comes to appearances and dating. Many times when we date someone based on their outer appearances the relationship doesn’t last. We come to realize that even tho he/she looks good on the outside, their inside can be pretty ugly. Just look at Hollywood actors/actresses, musicians, athletes or people you know if you don’t believe me. Many of these people have had numerous relationships and marriages.
To find lasting and meaningful relationships we need to look within. We need to look into each other’s hearts. Does this person have unconditional love? Are they loyal and faithful? Do they have a sense of humor? Morals, values and principles? How does this person treat their friends and family? How to they carry themselves? Do they walk the walk and talk the talk? Are they arrogant, shy, overconfident, codependent? These are some of the main things we need to consider when we’re in romantic relationships. If we do this perhaps we can have relationships and marriages last long and fewer broken hearts and divorces.
Thought for the day: To find the love of a lifetime, look beyond the fancy clothes and body shape because true beauty lies within.
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