Don’t Put Me On A Pedestal

“Don’t put me on a pedestal, for I am sure to fall. Just love me as I am, flaws and all” ~Unknown

We all have at least one person in our lives that we look up to. That person(s), to us, is perfect, flawless, full of wisdom, inspiration, experience and could/would never do anything wrong in our eyes. It could be anyone – a family member, lover, teacher or a friend.

Now, what would happen if that person that you admire were to fail you or hurt you in some way whether it’s intentional or accidental? Maybe that person says or does something hurtful. What if you and that person had plans and that person cancels at the last minute or they just don’t show up? Maybe you see that person as someone who lives and breaths Spiritual Principles like patience, tolerance and acceptance but you see them not acting very Spiritually once or twice. How do you feel about them now? Probably not so good I’ll bet.

Not one of us is a perfect person. If we were we surely wouldn’t be here on Earth. So what do you do when the person you admire falls from their pedestal in your eyes? Do you cast them aside, squash the relationship or turn your back to them? Maybe, but what you could do is talk to that person about how you feel – “I feel…because you said/did this” or “Why did you cancel or not show up for…”

By sharing your thoughts and feelings you can understand that person and even their motives more. Another thing that you can do is look at your own side of the street(look at yourself). Ask yourself if the feelings or expectations you have of this person are reasonable or are you being selfish?

It’s all well and good to look up to another person who may have helped you somehow or said something that inspires you somehow as long as you understand that we’re all human. We all make mistakes.

Keep this in mind should I fall from my pedestal.

Thought for the day: Just as you are not perfect, neither am I nor anyone else. I only ask that you love me for who I am, warts and all.

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About Bella’s Thoughts. This is a project that I began in my mind a number of years ago when I began reading some daily meditations. I had my own thoughts on many occasions and attempted to journal many times without success. It began to take shape when I took on another project for a Spiritual Advisor and dear friend who past away. To learn more about me read my very first blog post. For more daily reflections go to...

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