Message to Bullies – Words Hurt

The following is a social media post that went viral at one time. It’s a lesson that bears repeating and continued sharing…

A teacher in New York was teaching her class about bullying and gave them the following exercise to perform.

She had the children take a piece of paper and told them to crumple it up, stomp on it and really mess it up but do not rip it. Then she had them unfold the paper, smooth it out and look at how scarred and dirty is was. She then told them to tell it they’re sorry.

Now even though they said they were sorry and tried to fix the paper, she pointed out all the scars they left behind. She told them that those scars will never go away no matter how hard they tried to fix it. She further explained that is what happens when a child bully’s another child. They may say they’re sorry but the scars are there forever.

What’s not mentioned in this lesson is how these scars affect us as we grow up. Those of us who literally survive being bullied or picked on as a child in our school days will quite often have thoughts of inadequacy. We grow up believing we are worthless and useless. We feel like we will never fit in anywhere and we won’t amount to anything. Those words we hear haunt us sometimes for years to come. I should know. I was picked on as a teenager and bullied by a couple of people as an adult.

There are cases where children, and adults alike, have taken our own lives because they’ve felt so worthless and unloved. I was fortunate tho because I had a stronger will to survive and to prove to others that I wasn’t all those names they called me or those awful things they thought about me.

If you are a child, young adult, or even an older adult who has experienced bullying or being picked on – no matter what age – I want you to know this much…you ARE beautiful, you ARE creative, you ARE unique, you ARE quirky, you ARE crazy, yet you also ARE soft, you ARE caring, you ARE kind, you ARE loyal, you ARE compassionate, and you ARE passionate. You ARE every positive adjective in the dictionary. You ARE also stronger than you know. You CAN and WILL succeed in anything you put your mind to.

When the lesson was over, the looks on the faces of the children in the classroom told her the message hit home. Pass it on or better yet, if you’re a parent or a teacher, do it with your child/children

Thought for the day: The old saying “Sticks and stones will never hurt me…” or the one about “I’m rubber and you’re glue…” are not true. Words do hurt. Take care with your words.

***Please be sure to read more of my posts


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About Bella’s Thoughts. This is a project that I began in my mind a number of years ago when I began reading some daily meditations. I had my own thoughts on many occasions and attempted to journal many times without success. It began to take shape when I took on another project for a Spiritual Advisor and dear friend who past away. To learn more about me read my very first blog post. For more daily reflections go to...

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