“When you stop trying to change others and work on changing yourself, your world changes for the better” ~ Unknown

How many times have you tried to change the way another person thought or acted? How did that go for you? Probably not to well I’m guessing. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in recent years it’s that I am powerless over everything that is outside of myself. I have as much control over situations and other people’s thoughts and feelings as I do the weather. Now that’s not to say that I am a powerless person. I have power over how I act, react, respond or none of the above.

I’ve had people in my life that I’ve cared deeply for like family, friends, and boyfriends. There have been times I’ve wanted them to change for one reason or another, usually because they were doing something that really annoyed me. I thought if I could change any one of them that it would make my life better or easier. Turns out that I was sadly mistaken. Not only could I not change these people, but I got more frustrated because I couldn’t change them. I had to change myself, my thoughts, feelings and even attitudes. Once I realized this and changed myself, I felt less annoyed and not so stressed out.

As much as we want to change another person or situation, we can’t. We are powerless over others. As soon as we can accept this, then we can then change our thoughts and feelings. We can change our attitudes, our reactions and our responses.

Thought for the day: The next time you think you can change the way a person thinks, acts, or feels ask yourself, “Can I control the weather?”

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About Bella’s Thoughts. This is a project that I began in my mind a number of years ago when I began reading some daily meditations. I had my own thoughts on many occasions and attempted to journal many times without success. It began to take shape when I took on another project for a Spiritual Advisor and dear friend who past away. To learn more about me read my very first blog post. For more daily reflections go to... https://www.facebook.com/Stephanies-Sweetgrass-and-Dancin-1414954615472943/

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