“I think in most relationships that have problems, there’s fault on both sides. And in order for it to work, there has to be some common ground that’s shared. And it’s not just one person making amends.” ~ Steve Carell
In any relationship, whether it’s family, friend or lover, there will always be times of turmoil. It could be about anything. I’ve learned that conflict is what helps us grow. At the same time, I’ve learned an equally important lesson. Making amends, or making things right with the one who you hurt. Anyone can say they’re sorry. At the same time, sometimes when we say we’re sorry, we hear back “You’re sorry alright. A sorry (bleep).”
To make an amends, we admit we were wrong and leave it at that. Just like a friend reminded me of what an old “Dragnet” investigator said, “Just the facts ma’am.” Nothing more, nothing less. No justifying or rationalizing our behavior. “I apologize for doing that. I was wrong.” is all that needs said. And, perhaps most importantly, we need to change our behavior too. Making amends means nothing unless it’s backed up with changing our ways.
One thing to remember is this, not everyone will accept our amends. Sometimes we hurt people more than we realize and they don’t accept our amends for whatever reason. That’s ok. Remember we can’t control anything or anyone but ourselves and our reactions. We can’t make someone forgive us. We can only do our best today and leave the rest up to our Higher Power.
Thought for the day: No matter how good we try to live our lives, we will inevitably hurt someone in our life. Be sure to make amends promptly and back it up by changing your ways.
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