Commitment

“Let today be the day that you become committed in being, doing, getting, achieving, experiencing. Let today be the day that you are committed to being the change you wish to see and living the life you wish to live.” ~ Steve Maraboli

When you make a commitment you dedicate yourself to something like a person or a cause. It’s a Spiritual Principle that works hand in hand with another Spiritual Principle called perseverance. This is sticking it out or seeing something through, good or bad, to the end. Some examples are marriage or relationships, projects, jobs and service work(volunteering) to name a few.

It seems that as the years go by, people are not as committed to anything anymore. For example, marriage and relationships. Years ago, it wasn’t uncommon for a man and woman to have dated one, maybe 2 people before they got married. When they did get married, they stayed together until one of them passed away. Today people date numerous people before getting married and then get divorced down the road. Then they repeat that whole cycle all over again – date, marry, divorce…

Another example is jobs and service work. Today, people quit jobs and service work. Maybe the work gets to hard or other coworkers are to difficult to get along with.

So what’s happened to cause people to not be committed to anything anymore? Perhaps the biggest reason is that when the going gets tough, they give up and get going right out the door. If there are problems in the marriage or relationship, with projects, or on jobs and service work people find it easier to just give up.

Thought for the day: No matter how hard a commitment gets, step back for a moment, take a breath, then get back to it and work things out.

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Imagine…

“Imagine there’s no countries … Nothing to kill or die for, And no religion … And the world will be as one. Imagine no possessions … No need for greed or hunger … Imagine all the people, Sharing all the world…” ~ John Lennon

When man first walked the Earth, he worked and cooperated with his fellow man. Somewhere along the way, one person hurt another somehow and another person became afraid of another person somehow. From these events, negative feelings and actions like hate and discrimination were born. These feelings and thoughts continued thru the millennia and many wars have been fought because of this and other reasons.

When we were young, many of us learned either our Higher Power’s teachings or the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have done unto yourself”. We were not created to hate, discriminate against or fight with one another. We we born to love and care for one another. Through the millennia each generation, religious faith, and ethnicity has dealt with hate and discrimination in different ways. Verbal and physical fighting, warfare, peaceful and violent protests, and so on.

For there to be peace in the world, it’s important for us to learn and practice Spiritual Principles like patience, respect, acceptance and tolerance for one another no matter what our race, religion, or socio-economic status is…everybody everywhere. It’s also important to embrace our similarities. It’s time for those who believe in love and living peacefully with one another to rise up and raise our voices louder than those of hatred. No fighting and shouting over one another. Let’s talk to and with each other.

Thought for the day: It is possible to end much of the anger, hatred and discrimination in this world. As Trent Shelton says, “It all starts with you”.

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Black and White

“When I was a little girl, everything [was] wrong or right. Black or white. Now that I am an adult, I…know that …most things in the world…aren’t black, aren’t white…we don’t have to try and make them black or white, we can just let them be grey…Now that I am no longer a child, I can see…the black and the white and the grey, too…Grey is okay”. ~ C. JoyBell C.

I have encountered many people in my life who believe that things are either black or white and there’s no grey. No middle road. Things are either this way or that way. A person like this is narrow minded. They lack tolerance or flexibility and they rigidly adhere to a particular set of rules. Today I thought I’d look at the example of lying.

Say J.Q Person is saying negative stuff about your friend or family member. If you don’t repeat what J.Q Person says, this would be omission of the truth. To some people it’s considered lying. However, is it really lying if you omit the truth because it would cause physical or emotional harm to that person?

When it comes down to it, life is not necessarily as cut and dry, or right and wrong, as it was centuries ago, tho today some people still think this way. Nowadays, in our interpersonal relationships, we need to take into account the motive, or reason, behind what others do. We need to see things from the other person’s view.

Thought for the day: To quote the Dalai Lama, “Our prime purpose in life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them”.

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The Past

“All mistakes are lessons to be learned and challenges to be overcome” By Unknown

Have you done something in the past that you look back on today with regret? Maybe you zigged when you shoulda zagged, you woulda said this, then this coulda happened. Psst, I have a secret for you. All the shoulda, coulda, woulda’s ain’t gonna change a darn thing.

None of us have lived a perfect life, but fortunately, the past, even tho it hurts, is done and over. This quote tells us that we can learn what to or not to do, who we are or are not, and who we do or don’t want in our lives. We can also learn to live by Spiritual Principles like honesty, integrity and acceptance to name a couple. We can even find what we’re passionate about or what our calling in life is.

Mistakes are a part of life. Having bad experiences, events or situations don’t have to define and describe us or make us victims. Once we can ACCEPT our mistakes and the part WE played or didn’t play in the situation, we can share with others what we’ve learned.

I have another secret for you. The key to learning from our mistakes is to get out of our “self mode”. That’s self mode is when we are selfish, self-centered, and self-serving. It’s when we think of only ourselves and not other people. When we can put ourselves in other people’s shoes and we can understand where they’re coming from and how our mistake affects them. Also when we can do this, we can see our part, our role in the situation.

Thought for the day: Today I will accept that mistakes are a part of life and will learn the lessons that they teach me.

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Attitude of Gratitude

Mno gishget gme-gishek eneshkeyen ~ Everyday you rise from bed is a good day! ~ Old Potawatomi Saying

This was a comment left one of my posts on my social media page. Actually, it was on my daily gratitude list that I post. I’m told it’s an old Potawatomi saying that is from the person’s Nishnabe ancestors. I also did a little research and found its part of a Potawatomi morning greeting song.

I was going thru a rough period a while back and a dear friend of mine told me to do a gratitude list every morning when I woke up. At first I didn’t want to do it but that little voice I hear from time to time said it was a good idea. So I did it. Then I thought others might be going thru a rough time too and if they saw something on my list that resonated with them, they’d feel grateful too. So I posted my daily list on social media, every day, with my other daily posts. The response has been very positive and just as I thought, others have had their day brightened a little bit.

Does this daily ritual make my life better? No. What it does do is help me to find the good even when things seem really bad. Being grateful when we wake up also sets the tone for the day. Ever notice those mornings, when you wake up grumpy, everything you do turns to junk? Try waking up some morning and either express your gratefulness silently, do a gratitude list, or sing out your gratitude. See what that does for your day.

Thought for the day: Set the tone for your day. Wake up grateful for everything in your day.

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Courage

“Courage is the power of the mind to overcome fear.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr

A few years ago, I was involved in a self help group and my task was to find speakers for certain nights. I lucked out for the longest time and didn’t have to speak. I was grateful for this because I hate public speaking. Besides, I didn’t think anyone wanted to hear my story. I was able to get away with it until one fateful night. I had no choice. I couldn’t find anyone to speak so I was going to have to do it. I would be remiss if I said I was looking forward to doing it. Actually, quite the reverse. I was petrified.

Someone taught me a couple of acronyms for fear. I could Face Everything And Rise or Forget Everything And Run or that False Evidence Appearing to be Real. These acronyms helped me overcome my fear that night and other times since then. After thinking about it, I decided I needed to get passed my fears. So I stepped up to the plate and spoke.

All to often our fear of doing things in life is because we are afraid we won’t succeed. I used to hear, “If you don’t even try, you won’t know if you’ll succeed.” I also used to hear, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again” by Thomas H. Palmer. No matter how old we are, when we can overcome our fears, we grow a little each time.

Thought for the day: What happened when I spoke? Many of friends came up to me and said that my story helped them and that I did a really good job. This was the first time I learned that I had a message I needed to share.

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Peace

“Peace does not mean an absence of conflicts; differences will always be there. Peace means solving these differences through peaceful means; through dialogue, education, knowledge; and through humane ways.” ~ Dalai Lama

Let’s look at this quote on a personal level as opposed to a global view. I believe once we can get a better handle on our personal relationships, we can take what we’ve learned out to the rest of the world.

I think we can all agree that no 2 people will agree on everything. So how is it any of us is friends with another person? Oftentimes in our friendships, when we don’t see eye to eye with each other, we accept our friend’s beliefs. We come to agree to disagree. Sometimes, depending on the disagreement, we might learn more about our friend’s beliefs. From there we gain more knowledge about our friend and we may agree with them or still choose to agree to disagree.

For example, I have a friend who vehemently disagrees with my political viewpoints. We’ve had some very heated arguments over the subject. During one recent argument, we went our separate ways and didn’t talk to each other for a few days. When we did talk, we agreed that we disagree on our political viewpoints, our friendship is more important. We respect each other enough that we can agree to disagree.

Thought for the day: Just because we disagree with someone – whether it’s a little or a lot – doesn’t mean we can’t be friends. We can come to an understanding, even if it’s to agree to disagree.

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