Empathy

April 2

“Do to others as you would have them do to you.” ~ The Golden Rule 

Have you ever read an article online, a social media post, or comments left on either of these and become enraged by what you read? Did you spout off by leaving a hated-filled word vomit comment? Do you know that when you do this, you are continuing the cycle of violence and anger that fuels the hate in the hearts of men and women everywhere?

I have occasionally clicked on social media posts and read the comments others have left and became enraged at the insensitive, hateful, and ignorant comments left by uninformed people. As I start to write a comment filled with hate-filled word vomit, I realize I am adding fuel to the fire. To avoid contributing to the cycle, I leave the post or social media altogether. When I see something on the news that makes me angry, I change the channel. 

To stop fueling the anger we see on social media and TV, we need to become part of the solution instead of part of the problem. How do we do this? There is one way – but it will take some work.

We can practice Spiritual Principles like acceptance, honesty, respect, open-mindedness, willingness, tolerance, patience, humility, unconditional love, and compassion. If we do this, we will learn to put our principles before personalities which teaches us to treat everyone equally. No, doing this is not easy, but it can help us see how our words and actions affect others and we can begin to live in peace with one another. 

Thought for the day: If we want to have a more peaceful coexistence with each other, we need to practice Spiritual Principles and the Golden Rule.

Altruism 

March 26

“There are only four kinds of people in the world. Those who have been caregivers. Those who are currently caregivers. Those who will be caregivers, and those who will need a caregiver.” ~ Rosalyn Carter

There are many different types of caregivers, however, the more well-known ones are those who take care of the elderly. These caregivers do whatever they can to ensure the person they are caring for is clean, nourished, and relatively comfortable. Not everyone can be a caregiver. It is not fun to clean up another person whether it is bathing them or cleaning up their bodily fluids, however this is often part of the job.

To effectively work with the elderly, a caregiver must have certain character traits. They need to have a passion to help their patients in whatever they can. Having empathy and a positive attitude enables a caregiver to read their patient so they know when they can joke around with their patient. This also helps them to be able to tell how far they can push their patient to be more independent. Other traits include compassion and kindness, among others. 

A caregiver must be able to maintain a person’s independence and dignity as much as possible. Let’s face it, most of us do not want to ask for help because we do not want to look vulnerable, let alone be dependent on someone to care for us. This leads to the most important character trait that a caregiver must possess. Integrity. Caregivers must be able to care for their patients without taking advantage of their vulnerable state. 

Thought for the day: Caring for another person can be the most rewarding and heartwarming experience, however, it can be heartbreaking too. It truly does take a special kind of person to do it.

Integrity

 February 19

“Confidence… thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live.” ~ Franklin D. Roosevelt

F.D.R. is not only describing confidence. He is also describing integrity which is doing the right thing for the right reason.

I think many of us forget that when we are called to help someone in need, that person is in a vulnerable state. Whether we help with personal care, housekeeping, home maintenance, finances or anything in between, they are vulnerable to having their possessions stolen, or worse. They are vulnerable to being physically harmed. Believe it, or not, this has sadly been the case. 

I worked in the healthcare field on and off for about 25 years. I worked in both healthcare facilities and homes. My last job was a private care aide for a woman who hired me from a list of people in the area. Unfortunately, she was the victim of a home care aide who stole from her. This woman, who didn’t know me at all, still trusted me with her personal possessions, money and other sensitive information. She depended on me to use these things for her benefit. The first time she gave me money to buy her groceries I was very nervous. After I reminded myself that I had nothing to worry about as long as I did my work in an honest, reliable, honorable, faithful and selfless way, my confidence returned. 

Thought for the day: As you go about your day today ask yourself if you are honest about the things you do, if you take care of your obligations, and perform your duties in an honorable manner. The next generation is watching and learning from us.

26 Examples of the Left’s Hypocritical Response to COVID

This is the 7th piece in my series of “A Changing Country”

Each of us chooses to get our news from certain outlets only. Of course that’s your prerogative, but you may not get the whole story. The following is meant to inform anyone who isn’t aware of the whole story. 

They say that a crisis of any kind will bring out the best and worst in people. The COVID pandemic is no exception. In the beginning, we trusted our elected leaders to get us through this public health crisis, but then we saw the goalpost to flatten the curve move from 15 to 30 days, then two, four and six months. 

As the declared lockdowns and mandated stay-at-home orders ruined our communities economically, they’ve destroyed us mentally, emotionally, socially and psychologically. Suicides, domestic violence as well as drug and alcohol addiction and overdoses have skyrocketed. 

However, over time, we’ve begun to see the hypocrisy of our elected leaders and news outlets. Some of us have dared to question the science behind their decisions. Instead of answers, they wagged their fingers at those of us who failed to adhere to the dictatorial mandates. While the orders continued into the spring and summer, the truth was coming into view. Kids on spring break and Easter Sunday church goers were scolded, but protesting and rioting was encouraged. They might as well have said, “Shut up and put your mask on! First Amendment for me, but not for thee.” 

Yes, COVID has tested American patience, self-discipline and resolve, but it has also tested American leadership. Both have failed. In a National Review article on June 19, Jim Geraghty so eloquently wrote, “The moment called for Abraham Lincoln, and instead we got the gubernatorial equivalent of South Park’s Eric Cartman bellowing ‘Respect my authority!’”

While President Trump and other Republican leaders have been excoriated over how they’ve handled COVID, Democratic leaders are not blameless. The following is a timeline of comments and actions from leaders on the left. This is just a sampling;

1. September 24, 2019 to February 5, 2020: The Democrats were up to their eyeballs with impeachment. Perhaps if they weren’t so obsessed with that, they may have seen the pandemic sooner.

2. January 28th: Ron Klain, former Biden chief of staff, opposed a travel ban a few days before it was announced, calling it “premature.” 

3. January 30th: Biden confidant and coronavirus adviser Zeke Emanuel told CNBC viewers to “take a very big breath, slow down, and stop panicking and being hysterical.” The virus will “go down as spring comes up.”

4. January 31st: The day President Trump issued a China travel ban, Biden decried the ban as “hysterical xenophobia and fear-mongering.” Campaigning the next day, Mr. Biden seemed to attack the ban again, saying, “Disease has no borders.”

5. February 6th: Irwin Redlener, Biden coronavirus adviser, wrote an op-ed saying that a global pandemic was “not very likely” and predicted the chances of “getting a severe, potentially lethal form of the Wuhan virus is negligible.”

6. February 7th: New York City Health Commissioner Oxiris Barbot said, “We’re telling New Yorkers, go about your lives, take the subway, go out, enjoy life.”

7. February 11th: Mr. Klain again played down the likelihood that COVID would become “a serious epidemic.” “The evidence suggests it’s probably not that,” he said. Two days later, Mr. Klain tweeted, “We don’t have a COVID-19 epidemic in the US but we are starting to see a fear epidemic.”

8. February 20th: Dr. Emanuel said in an interview that there’d been “an overreaction,” and suggested “warm weather is going to come and, just like with the flu, the coronavirus is going to go down.” 

9. February 24th: House Speaker Nancy Pelosi urged tourists in San Francisco to “come to Chinatown.” 

10. February 27th: Mr. Klain echoed Speaker Pelosi saying people should not be dissuaded by “needless fears about coronavirus.” He added that everyone “should tonight go down to Chinatown in their city and buy dinner or go shopping.”

11. February 29th: With news of the first U.S. coronavirus death, Dr. Emanuel told CNN’s Wolf Blitzer that “running out and getting a mask is not going to help.” 

12. March 2nd: Governor Andrew Cuomo (D) New York said, “We have the best health care system on the planet right here in New York. So, when you’re saying, what happened in other countries versus will happen here, we don’t even think it’s going to be as bad as it was in other countries.”

13. March 10th: Mayor Bill de Blasio(D) New York City, said, “If you’re under 50 and you’re healthy, which is most New Yorkers, there’s very little threat here. This disease, even if you were to get it, basically acts like a common cold or flu.”

14. March 10th: Mitchell Katz, president and CEO of NYC Health + Hospitals said, “We have to accept that unless a vaccine is rapidly developed, large numbers of people will get infected. The good thing is greater than 99 percent will recover without harm. Once people recover they will have immunity. The immunity will protect the herd.”

15. March 12: Biden coronavirus adviser Lisa Monaco went on CNN and played down its importance.

16. April 6th: Mayor Lori Lightfoot(D) Chicago defended a haircut she received over the weekend while not wearing a mask despite her March 20th stay-at-home orders. She has been quoted saying, ” … getting your roots done is not essential,” and, “I’m the public face of this city. I’m on national media and I’m out in the public eye.”

17. May 24th: Governor Ralph Northam(D) Virginia posed for selfies on the beach without a mask. Two days earlier he signed an executive order requiring masks to be worn indoors. He became infected with the virus

18. May 28: An unarmed black man, George Floyd, was killed by police during an arrest. In the days and weeks that followed, protests erupted across the country – and understandably so. Unfortunately, violent protests, riots and looting also followed. However, instead of punishing the ones who caused more damage than COVID, a number of leaders joined in the peaceful marches while not being socially distanced and either wearing or not wearing masks. Some even helped to paint murals; Vice Presidential candidate(D) Kamala Harris, Mayor Bill DeBlasio(D) New York, Mayor Lori Lightfoot(D) Chicago, Governor Gretchen Whitmer(D) Michigan to name a few. 

19. May 29th: Governor Northam signs executive order requiring everyone that works or passes through Dulles International Airport to wear a mask.

20. June 30th: Senator Diane Feinstein(D) California sends a letter to the Federal Aviation Administration and Federal Transit Administration calling for mandatory face mask mandates throughout all public transportation. 

21. August 31st: House Speaker Nancy Pelosi(D) California went to a San Francisco hair salon for a wash and blow-out, despite local ordinances that kept salons closed during the pandemic.

22. September 25th: Senator Diane Feinstein(D) California was seen walking through Dulles International Airport without wearing a mask despite her June 30th letter.

23. In May or June, presidential candidate Joe Biden said, “If he had listened to me and others and acted just one week earlier to deal with this virus, there’d be 36,000 fewer people dead.” First of all, there is no evidence that I could find that backs this up. Secondly, he continued holding rallies until March 9th and until April 2nd talked about the importance of in-person voting.

As the days and weeks went by, Biden never mentioned masks, social distancing, lockdowns, protective gear, utilizing the Defense Production Act or faster vaccine and therapeutic development. 

24. In June Biden was asked what he would do. His current seven point plan looks remarkably similar to what President Trump has already implemented with one exception, Biden wants to implement his plan nationwide. As I said in the previous piece, ” … we are a federalist system … What works for people in big cities … probably won’t work for people in small towns … he would actually become the fascist dictator.”

25. Shortly after all Americans received a stimulus check in April, talks about a second round of stimulus checks began in May or June. It is now the middle of October and, as expected, Republicans and Democrats have not come to an agreement. 

Nancy Pelosi has repeatedly carried on about Americans needing help to pay bills, feed their families and so on. “Think about the children.” she says. If she cares SO MUCH about you and your family, wouldn’t she 1) work harder to come to a compromise with Republicans and 2) insist that everyone in Congress skip or curtail their two week recess in July and their four week recess in August? Now all of our elected leaders are on yet another recess until November. 

26. March 25th: An advisory from New York State Department Of Health(Governor Cuomo(D) New York, Commissioner Howard Zucker MD, JD, Executive Deputy Commissioner Sally Dreslin, MS, RN) was sent for immediate distribution to Nursing Home Administrators, Directors of Nursing, Directors of Social Work, Hospital, Discharge Planners regarding Hospital Discharges and Admissions to Nursing Homes. The “advisory” said;

“There is an urgent need to expand hospital capacity in New York State to be able to meet the demand for patients with COVID-19 requiring acute care. As a result, this directive is being issued to clarify expectations for nursing homes (NHs) receiving residents returning from hospitalization and for NHs accepting new admissions.”

It goes on to say,

“During this global health emergency, all NHs must comply with the expedited receipt of residents returning from hospitals to NHs. Residents are deemed appropriate for return to a NH upon a determination by the hospital physician or designee that the resident is medically stable for return.

“No resident shall be denied re-admission or admission to the NH solely based on a confirmed or suspected diagnosis of COVID-19. NHs are prohibited from requiring a hospitalized resident who is determined medically stable to be tested for COVID-19 prior to admission or readmission.”

May 8th: This advisory was rescinded, after thousands of residents of elder care facilities died. As of August 29th, the number of New Yorkers who died as a result of COVID was 25,319 out of which 6,639 were from nursing homes, but this omits potentially thousands of residents who died in hospitals.  

Governor Cuomo was not alone. Governors Phil Murphy(D) New Jersey, Gretchen Whitmer(D) Michigan, Gavin Newsom(D) California, and Tom Wolf(D) Pennsylvania all gave similar orders. 

Thought for the day: Remember, when you point your finger at someone, you have three more pointing back at you

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The Way of the Warrior  

“The warrior who trusts his path doesn’t need to prove the other is wrong” ~ Paulo Coelbo

A Warrior is someone who fights the good fight. Usually the word “warrior” brings to mind a soldier engaging in battle with an enemy. However, anyone fighting the good fight is a warrior whether it’s in politics, religion, or the homeowner battling an onslaught of bugs. Another type of warrior is the champion of peace and integrity. A warrior doesn’t do what right for the good of himself, but rather for the good of others. Any one of us can be a warrior.

Each of us, warrior or not, has a responsibility to ourselves to be better people than we were yesterday. To help us do this, we have an internal compass that points us in the direction of good known as a code of ethics. There are different versions but they are in general; Complete Sincerity, Compassion, Honor, Duty and Loyalty, Heroic Courage, Polite Courtesy, Honesty and Justice. When faced with difficult decisions, it is up us to look inside ourselves to answer the question, “What should I do?”

This code of ethics is just as important in our society today as it was thousands of years ago. This code is woven into our daily lives but we don’t always notice it. Today it’s difficult deciding what’s right and wrong mainly because we are bombarded 24/7 with distractions from all different directions. Among the distractions are our peers opinions of what’s right, misinformation, social media, and our handheld electronic gadgets. When we have strayed from our path, it is important to step away from that noise to find our compass. Listen to what your own compass tell you, not someone else’s.

Thought for the day: To answer the question, “What should I do?” Remember that the easiest solution isn’t always the right solution.

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Double Standards

“I hope you have not been leading a double life, pretending to be wicked and being good all the time. That would be hypocrisy.” ~ Oscar Wilde

I’ve known people in my life who’ve said things like, “Don’t lie to me,” and then turn around and do just that. Lie. Then, that same person gets mad over a small white lie. That person may also get mad if parts the story is omitted. An omission is when only parts of the truth are told.

I recently had a conversation with a close friend who told me about someone we both knew named, Roger, who had divorced his wife, Susie. In the years before their divorce, Susie unintentionally put Roger thru the ringer. Roger was a straight shooter and believed in the values and morals that he was raised with. Susie liked to walk the line between good and bad but apparently violated to many of these morals and values. Even tho Susie tried to make amends to him, Roger strayed from Susie and into the arms of another woman, Nancy.

Now this “other woman” was causing her ex husband similar grief that Roger had gone thru before his divorce from Susie. Nancy also goes against many of Roger’s morals and values, but he stayed with her anyway.

Roger is the definition of a hypocrite. A person who preaches one thing, but does the opposite. They pretend to be a certain way, but really act and believe the total opposite. Hypocrites usually talk a big talk but fail to walk the walk.

Thought for the day: When you are judging other people or when you are pointing a finger in judgement at someone, you still have 3 fingers pointing back at you.

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Imagine…

“Imagine there’s no countries … Nothing to kill or die for, And no religion … And the world will be as one. Imagine no possessions … No need for greed or hunger … Imagine all the people, Sharing all the world…” ~ John Lennon

When man first walked the Earth, he worked and cooperated with his fellow man. Somewhere along the way, one person hurt another somehow and another person became afraid of another person somehow. From these events, negative feelings and actions like hate and discrimination were born. These feelings and thoughts continued thru the millennia and many wars have been fought because of this and other reasons.

When we were young, many of us learned either our Higher Power’s teachings or the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have done unto yourself”. We were not created to hate, discriminate against or fight with one another. We we born to love and care for one another. Through the millennia each generation, religious faith, and ethnicity has dealt with hate and discrimination in different ways. Verbal and physical fighting, warfare, peaceful and violent protests, and so on.

For there to be peace in the world, it’s important for us to learn and practice Spiritual Principles like patience, respect, acceptance and tolerance for one another no matter what our race, religion, or socio-economic status is…everybody everywhere. It’s also important to embrace our similarities. It’s time for those who believe in love and living peacefully with one another to rise up and raise our voices louder than those of hatred. No fighting and shouting over one another. Let’s talk to and with each other.

Thought for the day: It is possible to end much of the anger, hatred and discrimination in this world. As Trent Shelton says, “It all starts with you”.

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Spiritual Consciousness

“In our ways, spiritual consciousness is the highest form of politics. We must live in harmony with the natural world and recognize that excessive exploitation can only lead to our own destruction. We cannot trade the welfare of our future generations for profit. We are instructed to carry love for one another, and to show great respect for all beings of the earth.’” ~ Leon Shenandoah

After doing a little reading about Leon Shenandoah I discovered a few things that I admire about him. He was a Tadadaho(chief of chiefs, the spiritual and political spokesman) of the Six Nations of the Iroquois Confederacy from 1969 until he Dropped his Robe(passed away) in 1996. Although Mr Shenandoah held a very highly regarded position in his time, he was also very humble in that he worked as a custodian at Syracuse University. He lived his life and, as Tadadaho, did what he could to impress upon the people how to live right as the Great Spirit, or God, wants us to live.

Native Americans live by Spiritual Principles like Brotherly Love, Honesty, Integrity, Humility, Service, Perseverance, Patience, Tolerance and Acceptance, just to name a few. These same Spiritual Principles apply to everyone everywhere, in every faith, although they may be written with slight variations. When we follow these Principles we have no need in our lives for greed, dishonesty, racism, hate…. none of it. Also, we cannot just talk the talk, we must walk the walk, meaning that we cannot just tell others how to live this way, we must live this way ourselves.

Thought for the day: Leon Shenandoah wasn’t the only great man who lived this way. We, too, can work on being great, noble, upstanding citizens if we just live by the Spiritual Principles.

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The Way of the Warrior

“The warrior who trusts his path doesn’t need to prove the other is wrong” ~ Paulo Coelbo

A Warrior is someone who fights the good fight. Even tho the word brings to mind a soldier engaging in battle with an enemy, anyone fighting the good fight is a warrior whether it’s in politics, religion, or the homeowner battling an onslaught of bugs. Another type of warrior is the champion of peace and integrity. A warrior doesn’t do what right for the good of himself, but rather for the good of others. Any one of us can be a warrior.

Each of us, warrior or not, has a responsibility to ourselves to be better people than we were yesterday. To help us do this, we have an internal compass that points us in the direction of good known as a code of ethics. There are different versions but they are in general; Complete Sincerity, Compassion, Honor, Duty and Loyalty, Heroic Courage, Polite Courtesy, Honesty and Justice. When faced with difficult decisions, it is up us to look inside ourselves to answer the question, “What should I do?”

This code of ethics is just as important in our society today as it was thousands of years ago. This code is woven into our daily lives but we don’t always notice it. Today it’s difficult deciding what’s right and wrong mainly because we are bombarded 24/7 with distractions from all different directions. Among the distractions are our peers opinions of what’s right, misinformation, social media, and our handheld electronic gadgets. When we have strayed from our path, it is important to step away from that noise to find our compass. Listen to what your own compass tell you, not someone else’s.

Thought for the day: To answer the question, “What should I do?”, remember that the easiest solution isn’t always the right solution.

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